Making the most out of life, yet not living life to the fullest

Today my family laid a woman to rest who never got to live life to the fullest.  She made the most out of the life she had, but I was terribly saddened to think of the things she had never experienced in her 75 years of life.

She lived with my great grandparents until they passed away, while this wasn’t her choice she made the most of it.  She never had the chance to pick a place to call her home, she never had the chance to be married, or know the excitement that comes with someone slipping a diamond on your left ring finger.   I am saddened now that I didn’t get to know her better, I am even more saddened by the absence of living.  There were no late night pillow talks with a spouse, no marital arguing (while this isn’t a fun event, it makes you appreciate the good times), no bickering about what’s for dinner, or whose turn it is to let the dog out.  There was no picking out furniture, or even coming and going as she pleased.  I remember her pinching my cheeks, and her bright red lipstick–she was full of love.  Today she went to her resting place in style, in the back of a ’57 Chevy (I had seen it sitting out front of the funeral home, and was hoping that was the way she’d be getting to her final resting place.  For someone who never got a whole lot of living, I thought she deserved something cool like that)

Until we meet again Aunt Maria ❤️ 


I came across this quote today… after leaving the services, and returning home to rest after an emotional day, it hit me…about comfort zones and just making the most of your situation…  There is nothing wrong with making the most of whatever situation you are in, and I am encourage every one to do that–but we should never settle.  If we just settle, we may never accomplish all God has in store for us.  A person simply cannot just do what feels good and comfortable if they want to grow!  You need to take a leap of fate, and sometimes miss out on a few hours of sleep.  Just remember, what stands in front of you, is nothing compared to what is within you!

May God guide you through this awesome journey called life!

Xoxo,

Jackie

A full life…

So I have this sign in my home office and it reads:

“Find a passion and pursue it.  Fall in love.  Dream Big.  Drink wine, eat great food and spend quality time with good friends.  Laugh Everyday.  Believe in magic.  Tell Stories.  Reminisce about the good old days but look with optimism for the future.  Travel often.  Learn more.  Be creative.  Spend time with people you admire.  Seize opportunities when they reveal themselves.  Love with all your heart.  Make time to enjoy the simple things in life.  Spend time with family.  Forgive even when it’s hard.  Smile often.  Be grateful.  Be the change you wish to see in the world.  Follow you dreams.  Be thankful.  Be nice to everyone.  Be happy.  Live for today.  And above all…Make every moment count.”

This sign is how I intend to live this next year.  So let me tell you why each piece of this is important, and what it means to me–and let me challenge you to tell me what it means to you…

~Find a passion and pursue it:
I have found my passions and they are writing (hence this blog), my crafts (hence my craft business), baking, and cooking.

~Fall in love:
Fall in love with someone who compliments you and I don’t mean compliments you by saying nice things (yes they should do that too), but someone who balances you out.

Fall in love with yourself, you are worthy of love and respect. You are beautiful, you are a creature of God and he doesn’t make ugly things.

Fall in love with life, life is beautiful. Life is too short, so laugh, love and live life to the fullest.

~Dream Big
Dreaming is one of the most beautiful and most affordable things to do to–it’s free!!!! It doesn’t cost to dream, now putting your dreams in motion that costs…but dream away, dream everyday, let your mind wander, and bask in your dreams they are beautiful!

~ Drink wine, eat great food and spend quality time with good friends
Drink wine–expensive or cheap…spend quality time with friends–good friends are far and few between, I only have a handful of good friends and they are rare gems. Real friends are family! Break bread together, enjoy a drink, and be merry!

~Laugh everyday
In my opinion a laugh a day helps keep the doctor away. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Marry someone who can make you laugh even when tears are streaming down your face. One of the reasons I fell in love with my husband is his ability to make me laugh! Some of the best laughs I’ve shared are with my husband, family, and friends, and those laughs have gotten me through some of my worst days!

~Believe in magic
Magic… Well I don’t believe in magic, but I believe in miracles. If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it! Miracles happen, and they happen because of the big man upstairs. So give thanks, pray, and rejoice in our Lord… Miracles are real!

~Tell Stories
Share stories with your loved ones, stories of your life, the good, and the bad. Perhaps your story can provide insight to someone else struggling. Perhaps your story can provide a laugh. We are messengers of God, sent to help our fellow brothers and sisters–sometimes help can be in the form of sharing an experience we’ve had with someone else who is in a similar situation.

~Reminisce about the good old days but look with optimism for the future
Don’t forget where you’ve been, but don’t lose sight of where you are going. It’s important to reminisce about the good old days, sometimes a simpler time. It’s also important to remember that there are good days ahead, days in which you should look at your glass as half full and look forward with anticipation of great things!

~Travel often
Travel often… That doesn’t mean you have to get on a plane once a month and visit some place new (while if you can, go for it)… Travel often by visiting new places, you’d be amazed at what’s in your back yard no matter where you live. As a child my parents and I took many day trips, and a few awesome vacations–but the day trips…that’s where a bulk of my memories were made. We didn’t stress about packing, or catching a flight–we just got in the car (well truck in our case) and drove. My mom and I played Roadside bingo, we sang together to the radio, my mom, dad, and I talked without a distraction of a television, or a smart phone, the biggest distraction was either a magazine or my Walkman. Visit breathtaking places, visit places where you can blend in with the locale and live like they do, only then will you truly get the full effect of your travels. When visiting new places, I urge you to eat at local eateries instead of chains–so much is said for eating food indigenous to where you are visiting, you can get that chain food at home…

~Learn more
Never stop learning!!! Learn a new word, fact, hobby, beauty technique, savings technique, patience, whatever you do….learn something new…

~Be creative
Write. Draw. Craft. Woodwork. Bake. Cook. Invent. Whatever you do, find a way to be creative. Creating stimulates your brain and it gives you such a sense a accomplishment!

~Spend time with people you admire
Surround yourself with people who you can model yourself after. You don’t have to be exactly like that person, but if they have a trait you admire–my golly spend sometime with them, pick their brain, learn how they think, ask questions, and let them know you are thankful for them!

~Seize opportunities when they reveal themselves
There’s an old saying the early bird gets the worm… If someone is waving a worm in your face you better bite it, unless of course you are a fish. If it’s too good to be true it usually is, so be cautiously optimistic…and if determined legitimate seize any opportunity to better yourself and help others when you can. I don’t want to be left asking 20 years from now “what if”. Take chances, and remember if God brings you to it he will bring you through it. When you have the opportunity to spend time with those near and dear to you take it!

~Love with all your heart
If I love you, I will love you with every ounce of my being. There’s only one way to love in my opinion and that is unconditionally. When you love with all your heart, forgiveness and acceptance come much easier. When loving with all your heart, don’t forget to love yourself, loving yourself will help you to determine who is and who isn’t worthy of your love.

~Make time to enjoy the simple things in life
Make time to feel grass between your toes, lay in bed for hours snuggled with a loved one, feel the warm sun bask your face, the simple things don’t come with a cost and they are truly the best gift of all.

~Spend time with family
Family is important! My definition of family isn’t those related by blood, but it’s the people who stood beside you and never left. It’s your rocks, the people who help break the storm from your shores. It’s the people who love you, when you’ve forgotten how to love yourself, and the people who have loved you when you were unlovable. Spend time with family. We are only on this earth for so long, and we must take every chance we get to let those we love know they are important to us. Additionally, your pets are your family too, they might only be a piece of your world, but you are their whole world–enjoy the wet noses and puppy kisses!!!!

~Forgive even when it’s hard
Forgiveness can be hard, but really life is too short to hold grudges. Not one of us walking this earth is perfect, we mess up. If someone says they are sorry, accept their apology and move on. While you should forgive, don’t allow yourself to become a doormat. Just because you’ve forgiven someone doesn’t mean you need to continue to have them in your life, if they aren’t good for your mind, body, or soul, forgive them and let them go.

~Smile often
A smile can turn your day around and someone else’s too, so smile big and smile often. A smile a day helps keep the stress away!

~Be grateful
Be grateful for all you have, there are many with less than you.

~Be the change you wish to see in the world
You don’t have to fit in with society’s expectations, be the change you want to see in the world. If you want more kindness, practice being kind. Do good, and you’ll never falter.

~Follow your dreams
Put your dreams into action. You are in control of your destiny. It’s your life–own it!

~Be thankful
Be thankful, you weren’t owed anything unless you worked for it. Be thankful for opportunities, chances, family, friends, and experiences good and bad. Be thankful for everything because it helped you grow in some way.

~Be nice to everyone
Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. You don’t know what people have going on at home, so be nice to everyone.

~Be happy
Life is too short to be anything but happy!!! Look at every obstacle as an opportunity, and every glass as half full.

~Live for today
Today is called the present because it’s a gift, tomorrow isn’t promised. Almost everyone that died yesterday had plans for today. So live in the moment, don’t live for the past because it gone, and don’t live for tomorrow because it is not promised.

~And above all…Make every moment count
Life is not measured by the breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away. Make the most of each moment and make every moment count.

So what does all this mean to you?!?! I hope if nothing else it’s made you think about life, and all that is important to you.

Warm wishes,
Jackie